Crisis Intervention Strategies - Bringing the Bottom Up
In this crisis intervention strategies section, I describe the
fundamental principle (i.e. theory) behind why interventions can work.
If you haven't yet read the introduction to this topic,
visit the Addiction
page, or the previous Page 2 - Mental
How does an intervention
this point I've discussed some of the mechanics of the intervention, as
well as some of the signs that one might be necessary.
it work? What are the underlying crisis intervention
Generally speaking, it's
really quite simple. I should clarify that the theory is
and logical, however, good execution is far from easy. People
love and care about the problem
gambler come together and express your concern. Someone who's
in denial won't likely respond to reason. Even though problem
are commonly said to be highly intelligent, and statistically have
higher IQs than the
average person, when they're in their addictive state of mind, standard
and logic are typically ineffective. Just know that the
love is still there; they're simply being consumed by this horrible
disease of gambling addiction.
So, the next step is to
"bring their bottom up". In other words, you can wait until
financially devastated, the kids have been traumatized, you're divorced
and homeless, or you can accelerate that "bottom". And what
mean exactly? It means that if they don't agree to go to
there will be consequences. The consequences are usually
will eventually happen if they don't seek help. What you're
is accelerating the timeline, and avoiding a lot of heartache along the
way to the natural progression to the bottom. This might
rest assured that the bottom will come. It may not be for
months, year, or even a decade or more, but it WILL come. So
up the bottom now" saves everyone time, pain, and certainly money.
most importantly, it can save your marriage (if you're the spouse),
their relationships with their family and friends, and even their life.
consequences must be meaningful, and everyone involved MUST follow
through with them in order for the intervention process to work.
This is a key amongst the crisis intervention strategies.
Depending on the relationship of the participant to the
gambler, the consequences will be different. Not giving them
is fundamental, and not inherently meaningful at this point (this
should have occurred long ago!). Some consequences might
severing ties so they can't see their brothers, sisters, nieces,
nephews, grandchildren, whatever the case may be. A spouse
usually file for divorce, and take full custody of the kids.
point is that you can't put forth a consequence that you can't commit
to following through with 100%. Please don't get me wrong,
this is the
most difficult part of the process. You love them, and the
you want to do is to hurt them. If the consequence that you
not extremely difficult and hurtful to you, then chances are they're
not meaningful enough to have the convincing effect you're seeking in
this process. If you don't believe in this part of the
you're not ready to do an intervention!
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