What is the right thing to do to support a gambler?
Married for thirteen years. Have run the gamut of emotions and so called solutions. I have been reading a bunch of gamblers stories and many that are in recovery have a common theme. Spouse takes over all the finances. I have no problem taking over my finances, but when does the gambler need to become responsible?
I don't want to be his accountant; I want to be his wife. He slowly kills all of our dreams and goals. Short term paying the bills. Even when we have enough money he puts off paying them for I believe a gambling cushion. Long term we don't get any younger.
Will there be anything for retirement? What about our plans for the future? I put him out of the house and a lot of what he talks about is how much he is spending on the hotel. He is thinking about it all though and has gone to a GA meeting and is hopefully going to get counseling. His parents want him to stay with them.
He is my best friend and a very good man. I just need the madness to stop. I feel like the time alone to think is doing him some good. Not having someone be it folks or me to pick up his pieces for him. I want him to be successful with recovery but I know he can't just do what he thinks I want him to do. That is not the answer. Any thoughts?